Today is my thirtieth birthday! Can you believe it... no wait can I believe it!?!? I'm THIRTY! Over the years I have grown soooo much as a woman, no, as a human being. Instead of giving you all life lessons I want to give you all the things I learned are okay to do. So *drum roll*
It's Okay to be Happy
A valuable lesson that I have learned over time is that happiness is a state of mind. I have to find happiness at some of the day everyday. There are so many things to be happy about and it's okay to celebrate it.
When it comes to my sense of fashion I have changed A LOT. I don't find it necessary to do too much. I am definitely more simple, I am thirty for Christ sake. A plain black tee shirt says so much more than a black "fuck you" tee shirt. When it comes to fashion sometimes, less is more. I have learned I don't have shit to prove. And it's okay to practice the art of simplicity. I am developing my own style... style goes a lot further than fashion. Be prepared for more and more of that in my days to come.
It's okay to only accept PEACE (and positivity)
When Mary J Blige said no more drama, she wrote a life story. Yes, I have had my days of senseless drama and devastating events. Some people live for that shit, not I. I only offer peace and accept it. Yes, I still have a tift of foolishness from time to time, that's life, but 98.9% it's all peace. It feels amazing.
It's Okay to be lonely
I must say this past year was one of the loneliest years of my life and this is not necessarily a bad thing. I have had to eliminate a lot of people from my life who just didn't need to be there. Whether is was a relationship, friendship, or whatever. Being alone allows you to have space and time for people that should be in your circle. My phone is so dry... probably drier than the Sahara desert but in equal respect the people who do call me and I hang out with I intend to have around for a very long time. They truly make my life golden.
It's okay to let go
I had to recently cut off someone I sincerely care about. It was hard but I decided not to accept their behavior anymore. A person will only behave in which a manner you accept. It's okay to not accept what you don't accept. And it's okay to stand your ground on certain decisions.. especially if it lifts emotional weight from your shoulders. It may be tough at first but every day that goes by you will be alright. Think of toxic people as poison. If your finger were to become poisoned and you could be saved by cutting it off to save your life. What would you do? Toxic people are no different, the longer you allow them to stay in your life the more they have a chance to ruin it. LET IT GO.
I have been told people talk trash about me. Some people say I dress ugly. I've even heard the clothes I sell (LoveDollShoppe.com) are ugly. I'm going to assume these people just don't like how I dress or what I sell, and in some cases not me. What I do, who I am, and what I sell just isn't for everyone... and it's okay. Not going to stop me from living my dreams and being me, and further more *Puts up both middle fingers*
Its okay to laugh
It is my belief we were put here to enjoy life. Period. Yes, it gets hard and we have responsibilities but you've got to learn to let loose and have a good time. I always find a time or ten in my day to laugh at something ridiculous whether it be a conversation with someone or something highly ignorant on the internet (GOD I love/hate the internet). I have to admit I am a major goofball, I'm certain it keeps me alive :)
Its okay to try new things
One thing I always am doing is finding something new to try, eat, or go. Be a big kid, go to an amusement park for a day. Try a new lip color. Wear a look you have never worn before. Get fucking uncomfortable okay!!? Book a flight to a city you've never visited. Try a dish you never thought you would try in a million years. If you don't like it so what!? At least you tried it. I mean, everyone has their limits...push them!
It's Okay to have fears
I still have fears and it's okay, I am human. But this one comes with a stipulation... it's not okay to be so fearful that it stop you from doing what you need to do. Fear is natural but procrastination is not. Don't allow the latter of the two dictate your life.
.:: The Look ::..
Hat- Forever 21
Hat- Forever 21
T-shirt - Mango
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